How to work with your wedding photographer as a camera shy couple

I get it! I really do. You don’t like having your photo taken, you quite possibly don’t enjoy being the centre of attention at all. I get it because that is also me. I absolutely hate being in front of the camera and I’m fairly sure that subconsciously that is why I chose photography as a hobby and then later on down the line as a career. Generally throughout life if you don’t want to be the centre of attention or you’re not keen on having your photo taken you can avoid it. Yes, there may be times when you have to just get on with it, such as your birthday but even then you can control, in one way or another, how much attention you get.

However, your wedding day is different. It is a big party and it is all about you as a couple. There are even moments, such as the ceremony and first dance where you are in front of everyone and their eyes are on you and you alone. This makes your wedding day even more nerve-wracking than it already is. Then there is the added dread of having a photographer around you all day taking your photo. Obviously, this is something that needs to happen as you want the memories of your big day immortalised forever and there are a few things you can do to help your cause.

Being a wedding photographer who is shy myself, I completely understand where couples who feel that way are coming from. Therefore, I have really put in the time and effort to specialise in capturing weddings for couples who are camera shy. I take my own experiences and project them onto you so that I can comfort you and make you feel at ease throughout your wedding day. My main technique is to blend into the background like a photography ninja so that you aren’t even aware that I’m there. This helps me capture natural shots, where you are looking your absolute best, not awkward in front of the camera. I have had a lot of comments from couples and guests who weren’t even aware that I was taking photos.

My style of photography is documentary. This type of photography has many names: fly-on-the-wall, candid, photojournalist etc. but it all the same thing. In short, I spend the day blending into your wedding so that you are unaware that I am there. A lot of this involves me holding back until I see a moment about to happen and then I move in to capture it and back out again before anyone knows I’m there. I do offer the chance to have group shots and bride and groom portraits but you don’t have to have them if you don’t want to, it entirely depends on how comfortable you are. Most couples do choose to have group shots as they feel more secure being around their friends and family and also most couples do want the bride and groom portraits because over the course of the day their confidence and comfort has grown (plus they’ve had quite a few glasses of Prosecco by that point).

An engagement shoot is an excellent way to ease yourself into having your photos taken by a professional wedding photographer. My engagement shoots are very relaxed and they are just about capturing you as a couple. They start off with candid shots of the two of you walking, holding hands, chatting and by the end, my couples are posing like models on the cover of Vogue as they have become much more confident in front of the camera. An engagement shoot is an excellent idea because:

  • You get stunning photos of the two of you
  • You get a better understanding of how I work as a photographer
  • You will feel much more confident and capable in front of the camera by the end of the session, so when it comes to your wedding it is one less thing to worry about
  • Having me around you on your wedding day won’t seem nearly as daunting, as you will see me as more of a friend than a photographer
  • I always meet my couples at least twice before their wedding day. I know that this makes you feel more confident around me and helps you see me as a friend rather than just a supplier at your wedding. At these meetings, we talk about all sorts of things, ranging from your hobbies and family to what your biggest worries are about your wedding day and your wedding timeline. I am also available on the phone or over Zoom at any point during your wedding planning so that I can help you out in any way you need.

    At the end of the day, I am YOUR wedding photographer and I do everything that I possibly can to make you feel comfortable and relaxed in the lead up to your wedding and on the wedding day itself. I absolutely love it when I get emails, messages and reviews from couples thanking me for how understanding and thoughtful I was with them and how they felt completely at ease because of how I wasn’t just their photographer but also their friend. It means so much to me when my couples talk about how I have captured the real them and their wedding day and how they remember it because I made them feel so comfortable.


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